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Moms like to wear an “S” on their chest and have a red cape flying in the background. We like to believe that not only can we do it all ourselves, but we can do it best.Thus, it becomes very difficult for us to relinquish control. Whether it’s allowing someone else to cook dinner or letting our kids fold their own clothes, we have a hard time not doing things ourselves. Whether it’s a fear of it not being done right or simply wanting things to get done quickly, most moms would rather do tasks themselves rather than delegate them out.
The problem is that there are only 24 hours in a day, and not all those hours belong to us. Even if we did have the time to accomplish all we dreamed of, we’d be robbing ourselves and our family of learning new things. For instance, asking our kids to help around the house equips them for life, even if they don’t fold the sheets perfectly. Don’t wait until you’re feeling overwhelmed to ask for help. Start now by delegating daily tasks and watch how both you and your family blossom! |
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One of the biggest struggles for moms is what to do with the time in the evening between when the kids go to sleep and when they go to sleep. Granted, the first thing you give up when you become a mom is sleep. After getting through the initial sleepless nights that come along with having a newborn, most parents turn to those precious hours after the kiddos are in bed to reconnect and get things done they otherwise couldn’t during the day. Computer time, picking up the house, returning phone calls, finishing projects, baking for the school fundraiser and, of course, finding time alone with your spouse…it seems nearly impossible to get it all done in an hour or two. So what ends up getting sacrificed?
Sleep.The problem remains that after repeated nights of this routine, everything begins to suffer, including your family. What starts out initially as a selfless act truly becomes selfish in the energy it steals from you and ultimately everyone under your care.One of the best ways you can take care of yourself as a mom is to get enough rest. The work that awaits you will still be there tomorrow, but you may never get back the time you will lose by not being present in the moment due to fatigue. |
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At the end of each day, when you look back over what you’ve accomplished, are you typically pleased or disappointed?
Of course, we always want to improve on what we do. But if you focus solely on what you’ve done wrong instead of things that went right, you’ll create a cloud of self-doubt that can be permanently damaging.
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It should come as no surprise that most moms are busy. It should also come as no surprise that many moms would claim they are busier than they’d like to be.
However, surveys show that a large percentage of moms wear the badge of busyness as a matter of pride. That’s right. Many moms are busy, not out of need, but simply because of a need to keep up appearances. Whether it’s proving oneself to the other moms in playgroup or trying to seem as important as the other moms in PTA, moms have looked to filling their calendars as a way to fill their self-worth.
The result ultimately ends up being fatigue, exhaustion and over-commitment.
Before you agree to any commitment, first ask yourself if it lines up with your family’s mission. If it does, then you need to ask if it’s absolutely necessary. If it passes those tests, then determine if you have openings in your schedule to accommodate the new responsibility. Only after you answer “yes” to those three questions should you add something else to your schedule.
Business should never be a badge of pride, but rather a sign that something in your schedule needs to give; if something in your schedule isn’t sacrificed, your family ultimately will be.
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Have you ever spend a great deal of time on something you thought would mean a lot to your family, only to have it get glossed over or barely recognized? Perhaps in all that 'doing' for them, you missed out on what they truly wanted from you...YOU!
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